We spend a lot of time talking about bullying as karate instructors. We feel it’s important that kids are emotionally, mentally, and physically prepared to handle anything that comes their way during some of the hardest years of their lives.
And if you’ve ever felt the effects of bullying, you’ll know how it can be humiliating and demeaning. Ninety percent of 4th through 8th graders report being victims of bullying, so although no one can be fully bully-proofed, there are things we can teach kids to cope with bullying situations.
Build Your Crew
Friends can sometimes act as a shield of sorts, giving your child the strength they might need to overcome sticky situations. As Brene Brown puts it, human connection is the whole reason of our human existence.
More important than friendships is the parent/child relationship. Maintain a positive relationship with you, so they feel comfortable in confiding in you, otherwise you may never know if they are being bullied. Your relationship with them can help model a positive relationship they can build with their friends.
As a parent, you can be the example of fostering good relationships with friends, relatives, people from church or some other groups, etc. Show them how to interact with others by introducing themselves, starting conversations, maintaining eye contact, joining activities, and showing interest.
Teach Your Child Emotional Intelligence
Emotional intelligence is understanding your own emotions. When children are comfortable with their emotions, they are more confident in relationships, with social status, success, and happiness. Emotionally intelligent children are also less likely to be shaken by the actions or words of a bully because they can understand emotions like anger, disappointment, fear, and sadness.
You can increase your child’s emotional intelligence by:
Teach Your Child Confidence
Oftentimes, bullies prey on victims who they see as isolated or easy to intimidate. When your child is confident in their abilities or even assertive, they can stand up for themselves without being aggressive or passive. They’ll be respectful, even when stating their feelings. Here are some ways you can teach your child to be more confident:
Bully-Proofing at East Mesa Karate
We want all kids to have the confidence to know what to do if they feel they’re being bullied. If you want to learn more about how we bully-proof kids, stop by our school, call us at 480-986-7177 or fill out our online form.